As I read Calling a Truce on the Octuplet Mom the article mentions that the Duggar family who has had 18 children the "normal way" have not gotten the same type of scorn that Nadya Suleman has. In a way that's true but in a way it's not, there were many people who scorned and blogged about the Duggar family in a less than complimentary way and one of the main issues was the exact same concern that was raised in the Suleman saga, who will ultimately end up caring for these children.
Had Suleman gone out and gotten pregnant naturally, people would still question her having that many children, but the mere fact that she artificially created this pregnancy knowing multiple children were going to result is what has so many angry. For the thousands out there trying to conceive, for those concerned about the well being of these children which in part exists because Suleman's own mother is raising some of the concerns.
It is irresponsible to have that many children as a single parent, purposely, especially when you are not the one financially providing for them. It's clear no matter what Suleman says, she's not "earned" the money to pay for her children's needs. Perhaps she has not gone on welfare, but she has taken financial support from her family and she was supposedly to disabled to work due to a back injury. Having been pregnant more than once myself, one wonders how someone who was deemed to be to injured to work could carry that many babies safely.
It's true that companies and communities have dumped dollar upon dollar on other families of multiples and that families have profited or attempted to profit from the media spotlight. I don't agree with that either, especially when it is a non-natural scenario where the couple purposely had that many children. There are many families out there struggling, if you can't be responsible enough to care for multiples without needing corporate sponsorship, community babysitters, etc., then perhaps you shouldn't be surprised when some out there don't agree with the choices you've made...
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Great post. The whole story seems crazy to me. I think you are right that doing it artificially when you know that you cannot support them is a bit much for many people to take.
Hello there,
I know that there is more outrage about this single mother than there is about Angelina Jolie and her brood and Mia Farrow and her brood and the Duggar family....but there are issues of race and socioeconomic class status.
I think that people are outraged because they feel it is irresponsible to have more children that one can give emotional nurture to...but then it's not for THEM to decide how capable one woman is in raising her own children....I suppose they have to consider whether she is properly caring for the children that she already has...
There haven't been any child neglect reports filed against her....
The concerns her mother have expressed to the media indicate that there may be emotional problems...
Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa
That's a valid point, though the economic issue was raised with the Duggar's someone like Jolie who is wealthy doesn't face that type of judgment and it is or at least should be more than just about the financial it should be the emotional caring for children that matters.
Poor women have faced this as an issue/accusation.
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